Tuesday, 6 January 2015

Let it go, let it go...

Quick updates before I get down to my point:

- We've pretty much settled into our new home.
- I've sold the motorbike and am trying to sell my Subaru Forester (leave a comment if interested)
- Bought a lorry which goes off-road properly

A Nissan Navara pick-up truck in your language. We call these things "utes" (short for "utility")
Incidentally, you don't need a 4WD or AWD to access a campsite like this. You'd make it here in a Honda Jazz.
- Visited a bunch of other places and picked a variety of different sorts of fruit

Mundane stuff. Nothing much to see here. Just our lives as we chose to live it. And of course sometimes we have to adapt to situations or challenges as they pop up. Life will never be a bed of roses, certainly not if you choose to emigrate or make any significant changes at all in your life.

Now, for what I think some people might do well to hear and internalise. Specifically my fellow emigres from sg.

Holding on to sg does nobody any good. Not yourselves, not your immediate family members here, not your friends and family over there. Especially if such things bother you.

You can take potshots at whichever poleeticians you wish. You can rant at a "Foreign Talent" from TTSH allegedly posting racist stuff on FB. You can keep tabs on sg news and get really riled up by the happenings over there.

Or you could simply Let It Go.

Now, I didn't come up with this idea/method/formula, but it has worked well for me. A fellow migrant from sg told me that shortly after he reached Melbourne, he unfollowed all social media news feeds from sg and maybe unfollowed or unfriended people who had a habit of posting and sharing such news.

I said "maybe" because that's what I did. I unliked or unfollowed Jentrified Citizen, SDP, TOC, TRS, just to name a few. I unfollowed those on my Facebook who posted such news. My newsfeed took on a very different look after all that.

And I just sat here in relative radio silence for awhile. Well, news-wise anyway. There's quite a bit happening in Oz and around the world. Took a little getting used to but it wasn't hard at all. Small 'price' to pay to avoid being burdened by the happenings from sg.

Next up, I had to remind myself to stop or at least limit the comparisons between here and sg. As our readers might have noticed, we've stopped blogging regularly, and this is partly why.

Singapore has been "there", in our hearts and minds for the longest time. We wouldn't go "back" to sg. We would go "there" and "return to Melbourne". Most certainly we don't refer to it as "home", and often we have to correct friends, colleagues and classmates when they ask when we are "going home" (my usual response is 5.30pm)

To put it bluntly, Singapore had to kind of cease to exist for us. There's nothing to hold on to. Or maybe "cease to exist" is too extreme. It's just the place we happened to be born in. No special significance whatsoever. Yes we have dear friends and family over there, but that's it.

Now you can choose to always love sg, or you can choose to let it go. We made our choice, and it has worked out very well for us. Mainly me, as A never had the sort of attachment or strong feelings to/against sg that I used to have.

I remember a lot of Singaporeans complaining that the FTs in sg clung to their old ways and stuck to their own kind, speaking their own languages. I can tell you that these "FTs" in Oz do the same thing too.

So do the Singaporeans I've met here. Most of them anyway.

What makes you any different?

At the end of the day, your life, your choice, as always. As long as we have no regrets, it's all good :)